How do you build respect in a marriage?

      Most of the terrible things we see happening in our homes today, including many so-called Christian homes, have raised questions about the sacredness of marriage. Over familiarity, infidelity, pride, and insecurity have caused disrespect in marriages that marriages do not last long again because these present generational couples are captains of their own which results in the disrespect, and disagreement that break so many homes today. 

   There is a high rate of divorce, and domestic violence that mostly leads to murder cases all over the world, and it concerns me because I do not think we have a future when our homes have lost their sacredness. 

   Some things are to be accorded with respect because of their sacredness and marriage is one of them because according to Hebrews 13:4, "Marriage is honorable in all" and for something to be honorable in all means it is respected in all. So, it is a union that demands all-around respect to keep the sanity of the union sacred. 

   Thus, when two people take an oath that joins them in holy matrimony, they are engaging or getting into something sacred which all the day of their lives they are expected to be in it to grow old and also respect each other for being in it.

 Respect they say is reciprocal, but when respect is not reciprocated, negligence and abuse become the order of the day in a home.

   From Ephesians 5:21-33, I will be explaining verse by verse on how to build respect in marriage because if there is one thing that should keep a home healthy and active it is the respect the couples have for each other. 

• Ephesians 5:21

    To build respect in marriage is to submit to one another in the fear of God. Come to think of it, why is the fear of God necessary for submission to one another? It is very hard for two different people to submit to each other, but the fear of God that made couples submit to God's will makes them submit to one another if truly they fear God.

   In this case, it is advised that a Christian brother or sister seeks the will of God in marriage because the provision of God for a suitor is someone who fears and submits to Him. So, when two people who submit to God get married to one another, it will not be hard for them to submit to themselves because, through the word of God, they have been taught to submit. 

   I have seen couples dragging who should be submissive to the other, but from the above scriptural reference, it stated that both couples are to be submissive to themselves putting aside their differences in the fear of God, and treating each other with respect as both journey together in fulfilling God's will for them in marriage. 

• Ephesians 5:22-24

   For a woman to submit to her husband does not make her foolish, but she is putting wisdom at work because even in her submission, she is building for the betterment of her home.

   Every woman has that special power from God to either keep her marriage going well or destroy it that is why King Solomon in Proverbs 14:1 said that a woman has the power to either build or destroy her home. But with all this power at her disposal, she is called to submit to her husband. 

   A woman is a silent laborer and a pillar in her marriage, and if she becomes faulty, her home automatically becomes faulty. This is more reason why so many marriages today are faulty because most women are opposite of what they are destined for in a marriage. Faulty women who, because of their financial capacity, destroy the sanctity of their homes and are disrespectful to their husbands. Faulty women whose marital welfare is not their concern are destroyers and not builders. Faulty women are not worthy to be called mothers but are murderers because their wayward lifestyle is misleading. 

   Sarah was so submissive to her husband Abraham that she called him "my lord" Genesis 18:12; 1 Peter 3:6. She was so submitted to her husband that he was her second god. Now that you are married, are you submitted to your husband? To you, who is yet to marry, will you be willing to submit to him in marriage?

   To build a good relationship in marriage, learn to be submissive irrespective of the partner's level, whether it matches that of yours or not. Always be submissive in the fear of God.

• Ephesians 5:25-33

   Most husbands have taken their wives' submissions for granted. That she is submissive does not mean foolishness, but she fears God and is committed to His will in marriage. In her submission, treat her with love and be her support system because she has all it takes to establish a home.

 To love comes with a lot of packages which are understanding, care, attention, support, and fidelity. 

   Love is understanding because it knows that she is just human and has her imperfection. Love is also caring because it provides for her needs even without being told. Love is attention because it is the strength of good relationship. Love is supportive because it is always available to assist at all times. Love is fidelity because it is faithful and does not cheat. Thus, I just break it down for you to understand better because godly wives need that from their husbands to build happy and respective homes.

   Most especially, do not marry her to become her liability because I observed most women are left alone to care for all the family wellbeing while husbands live waywardly which made most women get old at the early stage of their lives. Please, marriage is not just one person's work rather it is two people working together to build a godly home.

  Also, couples that work together, plan together and agree together respect each other. That is the best way to build respect in marriage 

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