Marriage is one of the most beautiful gifts God has given us. It is a covenant, not just a contract, and it carries His seal of blessing. Yet, because it is so precious, it is also one of the prime targets of the enemy. Satan hates unity, peace, and love, especially when they reflect Christ’s relationship with the Church. So he looks for ways to creep in—subtle at first, then stronger—hoping to turn joy into bitterness and harmony into strife.
But the good news is this: you are not defenseless. God has given us His Word, His Spirit, and His wisdom so that we can recognize when something is wrong and fight back together.
Let’s look at some signs that your marriage may be under attack, not to bring fear, but to bring awareness and hope.
1. Constant Misunderstandings and Strife
Every couple argues sometimes. But when the smallest issues suddenly explode into big conflicts, it may be more than just “communication problems.” The enemy knows that where strife is, confusion follows. If you find yourselves arguing over little things that used to never matter, take note.
“For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.” (James 3:16)
When strife becomes the norm, it drains the joy out of a home. Recognizing this as a spiritual tactic can shift your response from blaming each other to joining hands in prayer.
2. Emotional or Physical Distance
Another sign of attack is when closeness begins to fade. Maybe you’re too busy, too tired, or too distracted to spend quality time together. Before long, you feel like roommates under the same roof instead of covenant partners.
“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” (Mark 10:9)
If you notice that warmth, affection, or intimacy is slipping away, it’s not something to ignore. The enemy loves to create quiet distance before louder problems erupt.
3. Temptation Seems Stronger
The enemy often tries to lure one or both partners away with thoughts like: “I’d be happier with someone else” or “I deserve better.” Temptation can come through another person, through pornography, or even through the heart’s quiet discontent.
“Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour.” (1 Peter 5:8)
Temptations don’t mean you’re weak—they mean you’re human. But noticing them is a sign you need to tighten your spiritual armor together.
4. Financial Strain and Mismanagement
Money is one of the biggest causes of stress in marriages. Sometimes, attacks show up through sudden losses, debts, or constant disagreements about how money should be spent. Instead of pulling together, couples start pulling apart.
“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it abundantly.” (John 10:10)
When money becomes a wall instead of a tool for building, it may be a spiritual battle in disguise.
5. Loss of Prayer and Spiritual Unity
A prayerless marriage is a vulnerable marriage. Many couples under attack will find it hard to pray together. Excuses pile up—too tired, too busy, or just not “feeling it.” But that silence leaves room for darkness to creep in.
“Two are better than one… A threefold cord is not quickly broken.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9,12)
If you haven’t prayed together in a while, that’s a sign the enemy is trying to weaken your cord.
6. Unforgiveness and Bitterness
Hurt is unavoidable in marriage. But when apologies are not made, forgiveness is withheld, or wounds are left to fester, bitterness takes root. And bitterness is a heavy weight on love.
“Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.” (Ephesians 4:26–27)
The devil uses unforgiveness as a foothold. A couple holding grudges is a couple giving ground to the enemy.
7. Isolation from Godly Counsel and Community
When one or both partners start pulling away from church, mentors, or godly friends, the marriage becomes more vulnerable. Sometimes isolation is dressed up as independence, but it often leaves couples unguarded.
“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” (Proverbs 27:17)
A healthy marriage needs healthy voices around it—people who pray for you, encourage you, and remind you of God’s truth.
8. Hopelessness and Desire to Quit
There are times when a person just feels done—tired, hopeless, and ready to walk away. This doesn’t always come from a big fight; sometimes it’s just a slow erosion of joy. When you start thinking, “What’s the point?” or “Maybe we’d be better apart,” that’s a dangerous whisper.
“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” (Mark 10:9)
God never intended marriage to be easy, but He did promise to be with us through the storms. Hopelessness is not from Him—it’s a shadow the enemy casts to blind you from the light ahead.
How to Respond When You Notice These Signs
Recognizing that your marriage is under attack doesn’t mean you’re doomed. It means you’re awake. And being awake gives you the power to fight back in God’s strength.
● Pray together even if it feels awkward at first.
● Speak life into each other with words of encouragement.
● Forgive quickly—don’t let anger fester.
● Stay connected to your faith community.
Hold hands in the middle of storms and remember that the real enemy is not your spouse.
“For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers…” (Ephesians 6:12)
Your spouse is not the enemy. The devil is.
Prayer Points for Couples
Here are simple, heartfelt prayers you can pray together:
1. Prayer for Unity
“Lord, bind us together with Your love. Let nothing and no one pull us apart.”
2. Prayer for Forgiveness
“Father, help us forgive quickly, just as You forgive us daily.”
3. Prayer for Protection
“Lord, place a hedge of protection around our marriage. Guard us from temptation, bitterness, and division.”
4. Prayer for Love
“Father, rekindle our love for one another. Let our marriage reflect Christ’s love for the Church.”
Every marriage will face challenges. The difference between those that crumble and those that flourish isn’t the absence of storms but the presence of Christ in the middle of them. If you see signs that your marriage is under attack, don’t give up. Instead, draw closer to God, closer to each other, and remember this truth:
“No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper…” (Isaiah 54:17)
Your marriage was God’s idea, and He is more committed to it than you are. Hold on, fight in prayer, and trust Him to restore what the enemy tries to steal.
Find out why marriage is always attacked, and how build a godly marriage from the links below:
● https://www.seedwordchristian.com/2025/05/why-does-enemy-attack-marriages.html
● https://www.seedwordchristian.com/2024/08/how-do-you-build-respect-in-marriage.html
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